If people show you who they really are, BELIEVE them!!

Ok time to be real and direct with something I’ve really been finding fascinating in life since I heard Oprah say this on some YouTube clip, but first a picture... 

Ok picture done & this will be a quick post. If you’re reading this you’re in one or two of 3 classes of people; the ones who’ve been betrayed (I’ll call this being snaked from now on), you’ve snaked someone or you’re simply not into reptiles and have never snaked or been snaked and I hope it stays that way.

So now I’m 26 now and I think life only started mattering after varsity so in light of that I can safely say I’m 8 years old in real life years. In those 8 years however, I’ve seen things and seen the true nature of people because I think High School was just a comfortable place for us to act like we were all friends when in actual fact some people were simply learning the art of slithering and some were unaware that they’d need anti venom for the future but hey we were just people thinking we knew life. Varsity and post varsity is where you began to see the truth about people. Let me start of by reiterating the fact that IF A PERSON SHOWS YOU WHO THEY REALLY ARE, BELIEVE THEM! OTHERWISE THEY'LL SHOW YOU THE SAME THING TWICE!!

Here’s another free pic: 

Let me start off by saying that I fall under the category that has been snaked. I’ve been betrayed by a lot of people, males and females and that’s why I can write this to you today. The reason I write this is because I just want to speak truth and attack some mental myths we create for ourselves. 

Free pic!

To the snake-es

Well let’s start off by saying that when you’re snaked, IT HURTS!!  Yup it hurts lol! I think the reasons it hurts isn't because of the action but more who the actions came from. Sometimes the people you’d take a bullet for are the ones with their fingers on the trigger and that’s why it hurts. I’ve had the unfortunate pleasure of having people I thought were my close friends go behind my back and slither on in a cold blooded fashion and when I found out I don’t think it was the fact that it happened that got to me, it was more the horror of the who and the how. Have you ever noticed how when someone snakes you, and they come apologize they make it seem like it was some mistake, not taking into account that the whole snaking business was a pre-meditated thought. A best friend of mine, JJ, told me something interesting the other day, he said: “The voice of conscience is so delicate that it’s easy to stifle it, but it is also so clear that it is impossible to mistaken.” This means that people know beyond a reasonable doubt when they do shit they’re not supposed to do which means this kills the “mistake” argument of it all. Look unless snakes posses the gift of teleportation and their lives are lived at the speed of light and they simply end up in situations second after second then they really mustn’t come & talk shit about things being a mistake and that their sorry. I’ve seen that to snakes, it’s easier for them to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission.

The people that are snaked are the ones who are forced to accept the apology and somehow move on and be civil. What I’ve seen is that we form groups of friends because of similarity in cause and effect and we feel like we should remain friends with snakes because of familiarity and the fear of the unknown in terms of friends we think we won’t find in the future. Look this is simple, my dad told me that people don’t change as much as you can think otherwise or want to give them a second “chance” whatever the fuck that means. This means you shouldn’t be afraid to get to a point where you simply write people off. There’s no bitch-niggarism in that, if your leg is infected and can kill you, you amputate that bitch, you don’t let it spread because it’ll kill you. 

Yes this mainly relates to girls between guys and guys between girls and other forms of snaking. I’ve seen that people who snake you simply have no respect for other people and feel that they can disrespect people because of whatever reasons or ideas of superiority they have over others and everyone else is supposed to accept it but I have the balls to speak my mind and say that’s bullshit. 

The world is big, there are too many people in life to meet, so don’t be afraid to serve snakes with papers telling them in bold, italics, underline and in Times New Roman font that you are from this moment effective immediately writing them off and move on with life. Stop being a pussy going on about that being civil shit because all that will do is waste your time and energy with people that will show you the same thing they showed you before come on!!! If you know me you know that I can't stand to be made to look like an idiot hey but hey Lol that’s done. 

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To the snakes

Look man, let me let you in on something real quick; when you people do the shit that you do and come apologise, trying to explain why it all happened and stuff, understand that there’s no point. You’ve already done what you wanted to do with little regard for the people and the consequences of your actions. Your apology just means that you want to eat you cake and eat it and it’s not sincere at all. An apology is, "Sorry for dropping your phone, I didn't mean to." or "Sorry for scratching your car." Apologizing is for feeling remorseful for doing something you did that you had no intention of doing i.e. A [[MISTAKE!!]]. Not when you carefully plan shit and get caught out. You just feel sorry for being caught and the way things have changed and want to try salvage what you have left and try by all means to make things ok but here’s another free piece of advice for you; You can try whatever and even apologize till you look like a rainbow facially but it’s not going to change anything, you have forced me to react to your actions and I have, and there’s something inside of me that just doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore and even I can’t change that. Trust is like a glass, once it breaks, you can do all that you can to put the pieces together with super glue, but you’ll always be able to see the cracks. Just be upfront and tell the person you snaked the truth, tell them: “Dude I knew what I was doing and I’m not sorry at all, I don’t regret anything, I’m just sorry for how the consequences feel” and then move on with life hey. Remember it’s not so much what you do to people that hurts them, that will always happen, it’s all about who you are or in this case “were” to that person and [[HOW]] you did it that hurts and defines you as a snake. So remember, forget about what you did, your biggest issue is who you were and how you did what you did that’s the issue and that’s something you can never apologise for.  Let’s keep it simple people lol!! 

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 Conclusion

Not everyone has your best interests at heart, I learnt that the hard way.To me trust and loyalty are the only currencies that matter to my life right now; everything else is just a facade. I don’t see the point of being friends with people I can’t trust, I mean what's the point. Just another new human thing we do because we’re afraid of being real and upfront with people and so we put up with them and their bullshit. We find comfort in being the “better person” and being “civil” but that’s honestly being fake. Never be afraid to state your stance with people, be clear about it and stand by your convictions. Take out that “Fuck you” from your pocket like a referee and flash it regardless of how people will take it, the right people in your life will understand, everyone else is just a useless audience. 90% of friendship comes from 10% of your friends and the other 10% comes from 90% of the fake relationships we tolerate as human beings because of our need to be accepted or whatever the fuck we need nowadays. 

I don't posses that “being the better man” gene sadly. I’m also not one to smile with the enemy because, unlike most people I am unafraid to state and stand to my position with people and have never been afraid to speak the truth even if it’s not convenient. If people call that arrogant or insensitive then so be it, I did say that 90% of people in our lives are nothing but audiences. And having said that I just want to make it clear that I’m not a better man, I’m not the type to allow people to do shit to me and I am expected to just sit, smile & carry on with my life, na homie I’m the type to clap back because karma sometimes takes too long. And I’m just being honest, “a slither for a slither, an eye for an eye, a fake smile for a fake smile” and I'm very patient, I feel sometimes you have to teach people a lesson they'll never forget but ya. Doesn’t have to be in the same way it was done to me but I never at any moment ever said I’m perfect, I have always stated I’m me with all of my strengths and weaknesses. I'm efficient, strategic and because I don’t go to church, that forgiveness shit also doesn’t apply to me. So yeah, to everyone out there have a nice day, to all the snakes out there especially the ones that have ever snaked me (guys and girls) here’s one more free picture: 

Let’s all just live and be real hey, life is too short to live it living a lie...  (((BOOM))) 

J Cole – “Land of the snakes”

Drake – “Say whats real”